Responsibility of Owning a Dog in your old age: Preparing for the Future

As children leave home to start their own lives, many aged parents experience the bittersweet transition to an "empty nest." While this new chapter can offer a sense of freedom and personal space, it also creates new emotional and practical considerations. For some, the solution to this loneliness is the companionship of a dog. Many people find comfort and joy in having a canine companion.

On the beautiful Gold Coast where I reside now, it is a common sight to see retirees and seniors strolling along the beach or through the parks in the early morning hours with their dogs in tow. These morning walks offer more than just exercise—they’re a way of connecting with the world and offering routine and structure in a time of life that can otherwise feel uncertain. Dogs, with their unwavering loyalty and affection, offer the perfect remedy to the isolation that often comes with this empty nest stage.

However, as with all relationships, owning a dog in old age brings a new set of challenges and responsibilities. The bond between the owner and dog can be incredibly strong, but with advancing age, we must consider what happens when time inevitably catches up with us.

The Heartbreaking Reality: When the Dog Outlives the Owner

One of the most difficult questions that aged pet owners face is, "What will happen to my dog if it outlives me ?" It is not a morbid thought but a practical one, especially for older adults with limited family support or resources. A dog that’s been a companion for many years could easily outlive its owner, leading to uncertainty about who will care for the animal after the owner is gone. Dogs rely entirely on their owners for everything—from food and shelter to love and companionship. Thus, it is essential to plan for the dog's future, just as much as one's own.

So, what happens when a beloved dog is left without a caregiver? 

It's an emotional thought that many aging pet owners grapple with, but don’t always address. While some individuals might assume their dog will simply "follow" them when they pass, the reality is often more complex. Dogs, being resilient and adaptable, will continue to survive as long as they are cared for. However, it will face an uncertain fate if there’s no clear plan in place for the dog’s future.

The Importance of Making Arrangements

As emotionally taxing as it may be, it’s essential to make preparations for your dog’s future. This means discussing the topic with loved ones or seeking professional advice on how to ensure your dog will have a safe and loving home when the time comes. 

Here are a few factors to consider:

• Designate a Caregiver: It’s important to designate a caregiver who can step in if you're no longer able to care for your dog. This person should be someone who is comfortable with the dog’s temperament, knows its routines, and is committed to take on the responsibility.

• Consider the Dog’s Emotional Well-being: Likewise, your dog must be familiar with and can trust the caregiver, so they experience as little trauma as possible when their owner is gone. 

• Consider Rehoming: In some cases, it may be appropriate to rehome the dog while you’re able to make these arrangements. This can be done by finding a trusted family member, friend, or even a rescue organisation that specialises in senior dogs. In recent months, I have seen posts of dogs given up for adoption due to the health of aged owners who could no longer care for their dogs.

• Consult a Veterinarian: Veterinarians can often provide insight into the future health of your dog, especially if it’s advanced in age. This can help you make informed decisions about the best care options for your pet as they age.

• Create a Pet Trust: This is not common in Singapore but I have come across some owners who set up legal trusts that outline the required care and financial support for their pets. A pet trust can direct funds for your dog’s future needs, ensuring that the pet is well-cared for even after you’re gone.

  These articles share more about pet trusts:

  • https://cnalifestyle.channelnewsasia.com/living/pets-estate-planning-369241 

  • https://singaporelegaladvice.com/law-articles/creating-pet-trusts-singapore-legally-recognised/

A Personal Reflection: My Mom, Her Dog, and the Future

My mother is approaching 80, and her dog, a sprightly 7-year-old Golden Cavalier (Golden Retriever + Cavalier King Charles Spaniel), has become her closest companion in recent years after the passing of her Japanese Spitz. The bond they share is heartwarming to witness; her dog is a constant presence, accompanying and comforting her in ways only a pet can. Last year, my mother mentioned something that caught me off guard: "When I pass on, my dog will follow you."

While she said it with a certain mix of humor and tenderness, it made me ponder deeply about the responsibility I may soon face. Her dog is young, but in the grand scheme of life, time moves quickly, and I know that planning for the future is necessary. My mom's dog will likely outlive her, and I am prepared to take on the responsibility of caring for her companion when the time comes. Yet, it also reminded me that not everyone has the luxury of time and resources to help shoulder this responsibility.

Lastly…

Owning a dog in your later years can bring immense joy and comfort. Yet, as with any important relationship, it requires thoughtful planning and preparation. Making arrangements for the care of a dog in the event of one’s death or incapacity is a necessary part of responsible pet ownership. Just as we make plans for our own futures, we should also make provisions to ensure our dogs are taken care of, providing them with the love and care they deserve long after we’re gone. So, whether you're walking your dog on the beach or relaxing at home, take a moment to think about the future—and how best to care for your furry friend when the time comes.